I recently saw the movie entitled “The Hero,” with Sam Elliott. Sam Elliot is an aging actor, Lee Hayden, who is forced to look at life squarely in the face. He recently found out that he has a very serious cancer. We become immersed in his pot world as he wrestles with whom he should call and what he should say. Of course, he is estranged from his family and feels particularly bad about his relationship with his daughter. He decides to call her and convinces her to see him. Of course, he doesn’t show up—too many pills and pot. Okay that’s all I’m going to tell you, but I think it’s worth seeing. “The Hero” refers to his old movie roles where he usually plays the hero. To see the trailer, http://bit.ly/2rNWf7a.
His situation is something we are all likely to encounter; getting old, not being seen as that vibrant person in our 30’s and more time behind than in front of us. It was easy to put myself in his place. He continues to look for his last opportunity to be “The Hero.”
Lee is creepy and selfish. All he can think about is what’s happening to him and how bad he feels. The longer he wallows in his misery the more we begin to dislike him. It’s when he realizes he has to move forward that his world begins to change. He decides that he will take a chance and engage with the new people in his life.
What will you do when life confronts you, when you find ‘you’re not who you used to be?’ The new person has yet to be defined. Will you continue to look backwards to revive your ‘old’ self? Will you spend your remaining time trying to be the old self or will you be able to move forward?
In order to move forward we must take risks into a new life, one that we’re not familiar with. We can move into a life that may feel dangerous, like being on a swing for the first time. We know we’re safe in the swing, but as we swing out we wonder what would happen if we let go. If you’re like me, you let go of the ropes and took a chance. Do you remember how wonderful it felt to fly through the air? Will you be able to do this as you get older? Will you look forward to new experiences and upcoming changes?
In order to make this happen you will have to begin to seek fresh things, new people and ideas. Look for different types of people, seek something creative that you’ve never thought about. If you want to go bungee jumping this might be the time.
It’s likely our older life will be filled with challenges, now’s the time to set up some parameters so you can experience your new life with excitement.
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