Are you Still Worrying About the Past?

//Are you Still Worrying About the Past?

Are you Still Worrying About the Past?

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What should you worry about?

What should you worry about?

If so you’re not alone. Why do people bring up the past as if it belonged in the present?

If so you’re not alone. Why do people bring up the past as if it belonged in the present?

I love this quote from Art Markman, Ph.D., “When we look back on events from our youth, we are likely to remember many things as being excellent, or awesome, or brilliant. We just forget how we decided on their excellence or brilliance. With a broader base of experience as an adult, it takes a lot for us to be truly awed. So we decide that things must have been better when we were younger.”

It’s not that things were better in the past, it just seems that way! Think about your first kiss, your favorite song was playing, it was a warm summer night, you just saw a great movie and then you kissed. You can never replay this feeling.

The key is to stop comparing everything in the past to the present. I have a friend who always says, “When I was in California, I did this, that and the other thing. (That’s how my mom would put it.) Now my friend does relatively nothing buy go to work!

Five things you can do to make the present awesome:

Stop comparing yourself to others. When you start comparing it means ‘you are less than.’  I remember my first prom and the dress I wanted. It was lovely—long and poufy with 3 roses on the waist. Mom said we couldn’t afford it so I wore a pink, frilly one that I hated.  I was sure people would laugh at me in the pink dress. No one really cared; they were too busy worrying about their own dresses.

Decide to make every day awesome.  Why not love everything about today and find ways to make it special. Today I looked out the window and the sun was reflecting off the snow. It really was lovely; lots of twinkling. I am focusing the beauty rather than the temperature.

Surprise yourself! What can you do that’s out of the ordinary? Put a purple streak in your hair. That would be cool. Make yourself your favorite dessert. Take a different class in the gym; something you’ve thought about but just haven’t done.

Go to the movies and get out of the house! This is my favorite. Many of you stay home and watch Movies at home. Not me, I like laughing with people I don’t know and to treat myself to my favorite tea.

Think about what you can do to influence tomorrow? What would you like to be different next year? Is there somewhere you would like to go? Is there a new skill you want to learn? Do you need some new skills or a new hair style?

Tomorrow today will become your past; make it a good one.

., “When we look back on events from our youth, we are likely to remember many things as being excellent, or awesome, or brilliant. We just forget how we decided on their excellence or brilliance. With a broader base of experience as an adult, it takes a lot for us to be truly awed. So we decide that things must have been better when we were younger.”

It’s not that things were better in the past, it just seems that way! Think about your first kiss, your favorite song was playing, it was a warm summer night, you just saw a great movie and then you kissed. You can never replay this feeling.

The key is to stop comparing everything in the past to the present. I have a friend who always says, “When I was in California, I did this, that and the other thing. (That’s how my mom would put it.) Now my friend does relatively nothing buy go to work!

Five things you can do to make the present awesome:

Stop comparing yourself to others. When you start comparing it means ‘you are less than.’  I remember my first prom and the dress I wanted. It was lovely—long and’ poufy’  with 3 roses on the waist. Mom said we couldn’t afford it so I wore a pink, frilly one that I hated.  I was sure people would laugh at me in the pink dress. No one really cared; they were too busy worrying about their own dresses.

Decide to make every day awesome.  Why not love everything about today and find ways to make it special. Today I looked out the window and the sun was reflecting off the snow. It really was lovely; lots of twinkling. I am focusing the beauty rather than the temperature.

Surprise yourself! What can you do that’s out of the ordinary? Put a purple streak in your hair. That would be cool. Make yourself your favorite dessert. Take a different class in the gym; something you’ve thought about but just haven’t done.

Go to the movies and get out of the house! This is my favorite. Many of you stay home and watch Movies at home. Not me, I like laughing with people I don’t know and to treat myself to my favorite tea.

Think about what you can do to influence tomorrow? What would you like to be different next year? Is there somewhere you would like to go? Is there a new skill you want to learn? Do you need some new skills or a new hair style?

Tomorrow today will become your past; make it a good one.

Today is the only day you can change.

Today is the only day you can change.

Do you need some change in your business? Not sure what it is but you know things have to be different?  Call Lisbeth, 518-495-5380.

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Lisbeth Calandrino is an award winning trainer, entrepreneur, and blogger and has spent over twenty years developing custom tailored marketing and customer service programs for businesses.
Her recently published book, Red Hot Customer Service, 35 Sizzling Ways to Heat up Your Business and Ignite Your Sales defines the steps necessary to build a competitive advantage and turn great companies into unforgettable or red hot companies. Lisbeth admits that much of her knowledge came from her Italian grandfather who despite very little formal education and a limited English vocabulary, managed to became both successful and wealthy. Lisbeth has wonderful stories about Grandpa DiBiagio’s and her time spent learning how to managing Grandpa’s fruit stand.
Because of Lisbeth’s experience as a business owner, having been the managing partner and owner of 7 furniture and carpet stores for 14 years, she is able to bring her extensive business knowledge and experience to all of her clients. Lisbeth’s awards include executive of the year award from the International Executive Association, Albany chapter (a business networking group) and first place honors in an international marketing contest for alternative medicine.
A two time cancer survivor, she has spoken extensively about her experiences of cancer, offering words of comfort and inspiration. As an activist, Lisbeth has initiated and contributed to many charitable causes. She has worked with at-risk youth, spoken out against injustice and advocated to and helped to build resources for women.
As a presenter, Lisbeth Calandrino is highly motivational, information-rich, and very entertaining. Her acute business sense, contagious enthusiasm, positive energy and fun sense of humor make her a dynamic presenter.
Lisbeth is a member of New York, Historic Albany Foundation, educational director of Business Referrals Networking Group and member of the board of directors of the Animal Protective Foundation of Scotia, New York.

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