I am in the midst of learning a script for a commercial video. I asked my acting coach to give me some pointers on what I had put together. It’s a bit daunting when you are performing for your coach. I kept thinking in my head, what makes this work, what brings this all together. I explained I wasn’t sure what was effective and how would I know. He suggested I perform the piece in my own way and not worry about what I thought they wanted.
“Remember, he said, they hired you because of who you are not what they want you to be.”
Suddenly, I had a thought; the person who hired me said he was watching videos that I had made. He also told me the parts he liked. In fact, he liked them so much he was watching them over and over. I’m thinking to myself, what did he like about what I said? I realized he didn’t talk about the script or what I knew, he was laughing about my stories and my “in your face” attitude.
It was me being myself. What do I believe about myself?
I realize when I’m me; I find what I’m doing to be more fun and more real. How often in life do we give people what we think they want rather than just being true to ourselves? He watched several of my promo videos before he called me, so he obviously knew what he was getting. That’s why videos are really cool. Someone either likes your style, or they don’t.
All we have is who we are. Actors bring their own style to the character. If the character is supposed to be feeling sad, they bring their brand of the emotion to the scene.
Where we go wrong is when we get out of character. For whatever reason, we believe we should do it another way. This has started me thinking, what makes me get out of character, why do I think I should be someone else? Maybe this sounds simple but for me; it’s actually profound. As I go through my days, how much of the time do I spend being myself and when do I decide to be someone different.
I would say that authenticity is the key to building solid relationships.
Now I understand what Kermit meant when he said; “Sometimes it’s hard being green.”
Thanks to Lyle Verbilion for the photo.
Lisbeth has been helping business and people get what they need out of life. For more information, reach her at www.lisbethcalandrino or Lcalandrino@nycap.rr.com.