Let’s Make A Case For Niceness

//Let’s Make A Case For Niceness

Let’s Make A Case For Niceness

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Being nice can help your health.

Being nice can be a way of life.

They say it’s the little things in life that count, and many of them are free.

Being nice doesn’t cost anything but there are some really stingy people in this world. I have a friend who never says please or thank you  to the waitress or the cashier; I just cringe. Maybe my friend didn’t have to work her way through college as a waitress.

I was taught to say please and thank you and bring a gift if you invite me to your house.  Am I out of touch with the world? There are some people who are just nice.

I read that being nice to others is really good for you. Apparently, it’s good for everyone involved.

Let’s see, what does being nice mean? In my mind, it’s smiling, being thoughtful, forgiving and friendly. It means sometimes going out of your way for someone. Think about who you remember in life. It’s usually the nasty ones and the really nice ones.

We’ve all been cut in front of in traffic. Instead of giving them the finger let’s assume they have good reason for doing it. For instance, if they don’t get to the nearest bathroom, they’re going to soil themselves on their cloth seats. Could this happen to any of us?

The other day I got pulled over for speeding. The trooper said, “Do you know how fast you’re going? “No I replied, I just know I   took a wrong turn and I’m on my way to the airport and   I’m in a panic.” He asked which airport and then  said, “Follow me.” I deserved the ticket and gladly would have paid because missing the plane would have cost me a lot more!

I’ve decided to smile at everyone in traffic; I haven’t gotten any dates or stalkers, but I get smiles back. That’s better than those nasty grimaces.

Think about being warm and friendly.

Being warm can make you many friends.

How is nice good for you? People will actually like you. Being nice will make you friends; and friends are good. If you  have chest pains  at 3 AM, you will have a friend on  speed dial.


Besides, if  you don’t have friends, who can you trust to go shopping with you and tell you your pants are too tight?

And you may not want to know  this, but who will tell you your boyfriend is cheating? It’s said that thinking good thoughts will help your health prosper.  The world looks better; the economy looks brighter,  and you’ll feel powerful and positive about ourselves. Yippee!

In fact,  it will give you warm and  fuzzy feelings about  yourself.

Hey you get extra bonus points for being nice. Steven Covey calls it ‘the emotional bank account.’

When you do a good deed, you feel better about yourself. Even if all you do is stop off at PetSmart during a pet adoption and hug a cat. I always feel better when I do that. I think the cat does also. If the cat really likes you, possibly you should be volunteering at your favorite animal shelter,  or you will want to go to veterinarian school or become a vet tech.

When we’re nice, we can feel  grateful for what we have and  better about our own  situation.

I live in a community where people watch out for one another—sincerely. If someone is sick  or has a misfortune, we take up the cause.  Recently, a neighbors’ boyfriend  had  a bicycle accident, and the  whole neighborhood rallied. What followed were cards, letters, visits (when allowed) and lots of hugs for our anguished friend. I  think the neighborhood felt a sense of togetherness.

You know what else makes it really nice? You can stop  thinking about yourself.

Lisbeth helps businesses build loyal relationships with their customers. She does this by providing customer service and “learning how to be nice” training. If you want her to speak at a function,  she can be reached at Lcalandrino@nycap.rr.com.

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About the Author:

Lisbeth Calandrino is an award winning trainer, entrepreneur, and blogger and has spent over twenty years developing custom tailored marketing and customer service programs for businesses. Her recently published book, Red Hot Customer Service, 35 Sizzling Ways to Heat up Your Business and Ignite Your Sales defines the steps necessary to build a competitive advantage and turn great companies into unforgettable or red hot companies. Lisbeth admits that much of her knowledge came from her Italian grandfather who despite very little formal education and a limited English vocabulary, managed to became both successful and wealthy. Lisbeth has wonderful stories about Grandpa DiBiagio’s and her time spent learning how to managing Grandpa’s fruit stand. Because of Lisbeth’s experience as a business owner, having been the managing partner and owner of 7 furniture and carpet stores for 14 years, she is able to bring her extensive business knowledge and experience to all of her clients. Lisbeth’s awards include executive of the year award from the International Executive Association, Albany chapter (a business networking group) and first place honors in an international marketing contest for alternative medicine. A two time cancer survivor, she has spoken extensively about her experiences of cancer, offering words of comfort and inspiration. As an activist, Lisbeth has initiated and contributed to many charitable causes. She has worked with at-risk youth, spoken out against injustice and advocated to and helped to build resources for women. As a presenter, Lisbeth Calandrino is highly motivational, information-rich, and very entertaining. Her acute business sense, contagious enthusiasm, positive energy and fun sense of humor make her a dynamic presenter. Lisbeth is a member of New York, Historic Albany Foundation, educational director of Business Referrals Networking Group and member of the board of directors of the Animal Protective Foundation of Scotia, New York.


  1. Victoria Nye-Cordi September 15, 2013 at 7:43 pm

    In the “what about me ” world we live in, it’s easy to forget about being nice. But lets face it, we ARE supposed to treat other as we would want to be treated, especially our waitress or cleaning person. They are still human beings and NO ONE is above or below the other. God created us all the same. Your telling the truth when you got pulled over showed a humble human being & God blessed you for that with another humble human being and next time you won’t speed cause you KNOW everything will work out for YOU!
    Kindness is something we should automatically give, NO MATTER what. Good people always get the better. It is our divine destiny. Kindness to our fellow man is what we are put on this earth for, to serve on another. Being mean & rude robs us. Kindness is easy, Mean people should try it 🙂

  2. LIsbeth Calandrino September 15, 2013 at 8:48 pm

    Hi Vickie, thank you for the note; I like your statement than kindness should be automatic and this is what we were put on earth for. It would be nice if everyone felt that way.

  3. Doug September 16, 2013 at 8:39 am

    Very interesting and thoughtful. Good writing, Lis.

  4. Caren McCabe September 16, 2013 at 9:25 am

    Hi Lis,

    I love this post! It reminded me of a speaker I heard many years ago who advised the audience to think of two positives for every negative. So that crazy driver who just cut you off? Maybe they’re rushing to assist a loved one or they’re on their way to the airport. 🙂

    Thank YOU for brightening my day!!

  5. LIsbeth Calandrino September 16, 2013 at 10:19 am

    Hi Caren, I like the idea of “two positives for one negative.” Life just moves along so fast with things changing almost instantly. It’s hard to comprehend everything. I must admit that I’m better since I decided to be more proactive than reactive. Thanks for taking the time to comment. XO

  6. Tabby September 16, 2013 at 12:31 pm

    I love this article. I think that this is the fundamentals of building a better world. One of the most talked about events that has occurred in our nation is the fact that the New York community cared about each other so deeply and began to help each other out after 9/11. It was phenomenal.

  7. LIsbeth Calandrino September 16, 2013 at 8:27 pm

    Thanks for your comments Tabby; it’s too bad we need 9/11 to bond together.

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